Being single…..a gift?

There was a point in my life that I was so sure that I’d be married at 25. Funny how specific I was with the age. For the record, I am now 27 going on 28 and am still single (and not complaining :)). Do I want to get married? I do. But after many years of wanting to settle down in my mid-twenties…..I am happy being single. I am not just saying it to make myself feel better. I have never felt like this until a few months ago. I asked myself the question this year, ‘what if you never got married?’. A bit early to ask the question, I know….but ‘what if!?’. It was this year that something clicked within me and I was happy with being single. For me to say that…..its a HUGE THING! I’ve been praying for this man since I was 15….to say I am willing to be single….its HUGE! I’ll put it this way….I still want to get married….but if I didn’t….I will not be a disgruntled person who is angry with God neither will my world fall apart. My proposal to you is….whatever stage you are in – Be content. It’s a decision that you must make. Bask in the gifts that you can receive and give during that stage.

The reason I write this blog is because some people feel sorry for you if you are single. I totally understand the pressure of it all. I get it a lot….. ‘so are you seeing anyone?’, ‘when are you getting married?’. If I say I am not its either ‘you need to go out and meet people’ or ‘you must be picky’. I am truly blessed to have people who care about me. I know they are all just concerned about my happiness. They don’t want me to be alone when I get older. I believe it’s the same for you who feel pressured. However, I believe that we must be happy in whatever stage we are in. We live in a world where everyone is not content with where their at. Look at it this way…after you get married, the next question will be ‘when are you having babies?’, to questions that you get in motherhood and so on. If you are a perfectionist like me…..God bless you….you truly need to make a decision to be content….haha.  

Being single was never a curse. I know wanting to share your life with someone is a God-given desire. But….we should never think life will only start once we get married. I’ve done my research honey….there are many married people who would say that they wished they had enjoyed singlehood. The gifts that singlehood has to offer is something that most of us do not get once we settle-down. If you are single (not that you can't do this when your married), meet people....travel to different countries (backpack if you want)....bungee jump....skydive....swim with dolphins(that one is for me!). Find out what your likes and dislikes are. Discover who you are as a person. If you are engaged or married, enjoy it. Enjoy today and do not go through life worrying. Don’t waste the gifts God gave us. Living dissatisfied is no way to live at all.

I reached this stage not by sher will….I came to a place where I was able to not just say I trust God with my life but truly believe that God has the best plan for my life. All I need to do is enjoy where I am at, be obedient to the will of God and continue to trust Him. I’ve never been so sure of anything in my life than His purposes for me. I will falter but my God will never forsake me. My hope is in Him.

If they obey and serve him, they shall spend their days in prosperity, and their years in pleasures. (Job 36:11)

Not that I speak from want; for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. (Phil 4:11-12)

So my lovely people....just like Paul....be resolved to be content. It will be one of the best decisions you make xoxo.